"There is no &39;enough&39; or &39;right&39; or &39;healthy&39; amount of sex," Zimmerman says. "If both people are happy, they are having enough."
How often a couple should have sexwill depend on what each person in the relationship wants and how they collaborate to create a sex life that works for both people, she explains.
And generally speaking, if you&39;re focused onfrequencyof sex, you&39;reprobably focused on the wrong thing, she adds. "We need to be talking about the quality of pleasure and connection, and we need to understand any barriers someone may have to wanting and enjoying sex."
If you&39;re someone who feels you want more sex in your relationship, Zimmerman recommends asking yourself: What is it youtrulywant when you say you want more sex? Do you want to do a particular thing with a body part? Are you looking for an orgasm? Are you wanting to connect deeply with a partner?
