If sex is important to you or if it&39;s important to your partner, then it&39;s important to the relationship—and worth taking the time to invest in cocreating a sex life that works for you both.
Zimmerman&39;s No. 1 tip? "Don&39;t avoid it."
She recommends starting by reflecting on what&39;s really happening in your sex life currently, what you want, and what your partner is experiencing. "Consider how you may have a role in what isn&39;t working—how you might be contributing to the problems in your sex life. Really think about what might be going on for your partner—have curiosity and compassion for their experience," she says. "If someone is avoiding it or losing interest, there will be legitimate reasons why."
Talk to your partner about what you&39;re noticing. Zimmerman stresses the importance of approaching the conversation positively, with a desire totrulyunderstand them, work as a team, and get creative with problemsolving.
If you find yourselves struggling to make progress, don&39;t be afraid towork with a sex therapistwho can help you navigate these conversations with a little more ease.
