Inviting someone you know (e.g. "Would you like to go home together?"):
→ "Thank you for the invitation, but I want to go home now."
To an inappropriate relationship partner (e.g. a stranger or someone you don't know well):
→ "I don't think it's appropriate for you to ask this question." (Leave immediately and ask a friend for help)
Dealing with ambiguous hints (e.g. "Don't you think I'm attractive"):
→ "Please don't misunderstand me, I don't mean that."
To someone you are interested in but don't want to have a relationship with:
→ "Thank you for your kindness, but I don't want to develop an intimate relationship for the time being."
To a potential partner who needs time to get to know:
→ "We still need to get to know each other better, it's too fast now."
Clarifying friendships:
→ "I value our friendship and hope to maintain the current relationship."
Change the subject after rejection:
→ "Tonight's performance/dinner/chat was really enjoyable, especially..."
Relieve embarrassment through specific memories:
→ "The impromptu performance just now was so wonderful, what do you think?"
To strangers:
→ "Good night, I'll take my leave now." (Smile and nod before leaving)
To people you know:
→ "Let's go find other friends/do you want a refill?"
How to deal with feeling uneasy:
→ Take out your phone to indicate you're busy, or walk to a crowded place
Demonstration of second refusal:
→ "I have clearly said I don't want to, please respect my decision."
How to deal with continuous pressure:
→ Immediately terminate the interaction and leave the scene, and seek security help if necessary
Gradually escalating response strategies:
1. Back away and keep a safe distance
2. Move away from the other person's body: "Please keep a proper distance"
3. Loud warning: "Stop! I don't accept this!"
4. Quickly disengage and seek help
Choose when both parties are relaxed:
→ "I want to talk to you about something recently. When is it convenient?"
Avoid discussing before or after intimate contact
Take the initiative to create communication opportunities: "I have some ideas about our intimate relationship..."
Turn off electronic devices and ensure privacy
Choose a neutral place (such as the sofa in the living room instead of the bedroom)
Prepare drinks to help relax
Opening remarks example:
→ "This conversation is to better clarify our intimate boundaries"
→ "I hope we can communicate honestly about our expectations for intimacy"
Emphasis on two-way communication:
→ "I also want to know your true thoughts"
Use standard terms directly (such as "contraceptive measures" and "foreplay")
Avoid vague pronouns ("that" and "this kind of thing")
Gestures can be used to help explain the scope of personal space
Establish interactive rules:
→ "Before each intimate contact in the future, we can confirm the other party's willingness first"
Create a safe word mechanism:
→ "If you use the word 'pause', we will stop immediately, okay?"
Specific praise:
→ "I especially appreciate that you noticed my emotions in time last time..."
→ "Your gentle way of asking for opinions makes me feel safe"
Develop rejection words:
→ "I'm not in the mood now" / "This environment makes me nervous"
Agree on follow-up plans:
→ "Can we continue this topic on the weekend when the children are not at home?"
Establish "three-level" boundaries:
1. Absolutely forbidden areas (such as certain body parts)
2. Situational restrictions (such as not having intimate contact when drunk)
3. Temporary status (such as special needs during menstruation/stress period)
Specific expression:
→ "I do not accept physical contact without consent"
→ "Please avoid intimate actions in public places"
Use "I" sentences:
→ "I need clear confirmation before each intimacy"
Related emotional needs:
→ "Rapid progress makes me feel uneasy because..."
Share the background of growth:
→ "Influenced by my family education, I pay more attention to..."
Guide joint discussion:
→ "How do you think we can balance each other's needs?"
