Want to explore the hidden pleasure potential of your own—or your partner&39;s—prostate? Ahead, a few tips and tricks to keep in mind:
1.Take the pressure off.
The best way to cockblock an orgasm? By putting pressure on yourself to have one. Zane says it&39;s important to remember that "even if the stimulation doesn&39;t result in a prostate orgasm (or any other orgasm), prostate stimulation can still feel good."
The prostate isn&39;t the only nerverich portion of the anus, he says. The entrance of the canal is reported to have as many nerves as the head of a penis. And while the anal canal itself isn&39;t quite as sensitive, many penisowners enjoy the feeling of fullness that accompanies anal and prostate play.
2.Start with a finger.
Your fingers are more malleable and responsive than toys, which is why Stewart recommends starting your prostate exploration journey with your hands, also sometimes known asprostate milking.
Rather than going from zero to finger, start by turning yourself on in your usual ways (stroking your penis, pinching your nipples, porn, etc.), she suggests. Then, when you&39;re ready, grab some lube and go for it. "Start with a single finger," she says. "Once inside, curl your finger toward your stomach and you should feel a bulbous, spongy gland."
All bodies are different, she says, so spend some time testing out different types of touch. Experiment with swiping your finger side to side like a windshield wiper, pressing it like a doorbell, and circling it round and round.
Protip: Preplay,give yourself a little manicure. "You want to make sure your nails are cut and filed down because you don&39;t want to accidentally scratch your insides."
3.Try to stimulate the area externally.
Tried receptive anal penetration and didn&39;t enjoy it? Can&39;t mentally get over the potential of poo? Simply looking for yet another way to tease this hot spot? Try stimulating the prostate indirectly via external stimulation.
Applying pressure to the perineum—the patch of tissue between the scrotum and the anus—can put feelgood pressure on the prostate as well, according to Zane.
4.Level up with prostate toys.
Between prostate massagers, anal beads, dildos, and butt plugs, the analsafe toy market is stacked. But if you&39;re going to invest in a prostate toy, Zane recommends making it a prostate massager. Typically shaped like Captain Hook&39;s claw, "prostate massagers are the best way to induce a prostate orgasm on yourself," he says. Even better are vibrating prostate massagers.
"Apply a ton of waterbased lube to the massage, then gently insert it inside of your anus," he says. "Slow and steady wins the race here, so if you&39;ve never explored your back door, you should start with the smallest prostate massager you can find."
5.Breathe.
Whether you&39;re receiving a toy, penis, or finger, Zane suggests focusing on your inhales and exhales. The natural bodily response when you&39;re being anally penetrated for the first time is to clench down, he explains, which can make the whole experience uncomfortable, if not downright impossible.
"Focus on taking big, deep, diaphragmatic belly breaths while you play. This will help you relax," he says. Breathing may have the power toextend your orgasm, too.
