1.Prop yourself up with a pillow prop.
"Try using asex wedgeor pillow to lift the receiving partner&39;s hips," says sexologistGoody Howard, MSW, MPH. This can help to make things more comfortable and improve control for the penetrator. This tip is especially useful if you feel like your height difference makes this position a little difficult.
2.Explore anal.
The butterfly is not just for vaginal sex—mix it up by using it for anal too. "To explore this, the receiver should bring their knees closer to their chest and their legs a bit closer to their body, compared to the vaginal butterfly. This shift will help the anal muscles to relax and become open to welcoming visitors," says DavisFainbloom. Remember to use a lot oflubeand begin with fingers to get comfortable.
3.Incorporate BDSM.
Since the butterfly allows you to be facetoface, you can take the opportunity to (consensually, of course) choke your partner or engage in some light face slapping. You can also lean intodirty talkor adominant/submissive dynamicto add more of a frisson if that&39;s what you&39;re into, says relationship and sexuality coachPrandhara Prem. Just make sure to discuss your desire toincorporate BDSMbeforehand and confirm that you&39;re both down.
4.Use a toy or two.
"If you truly want to grow wings, try using a vibrator during butterfly penetration," DavisFainbloom adds. This can make the difference between "great" and "OMG." The penetrator and/or receiver could also wear abutt plug. Make it avibrating butt plugfor extra stars.
5.Adjust the depth.
"If deep penetration is not for you, then the bottom or receiver can put their feet on their partner&39;s chest. This allows for the receiver to have better control of how deep the penetration goes in. This is ideal if the receiver has a shallow vagina or if the penetrator is quite wellendowed," Prem recommends. Play around with what works best for you!
6.Crisscross.
Another variation to help reduce the depth or just get a slightly different sensation is to use the crisscross position with the left leg on the left shoulder of the penetrating partner, and the right leg on the right shoulder. This crisscross creates a smaller insertion area for the penis or dildo.
