Looking to switch it up from your classicmissionary position? The butterfly position could be the one for you. It&39;s actually a similar position that just looks more complex than it is, so don&39;t be put off if sexual gymnastics aren&39;t your thing. Here, we&39;ve collected everything you need to know to help you nail the butterfly.
The butterfly sex position.
The butterfly position is a sex position where the penetrating partner is standing up while the receiver lies on their back on an elevated surface like a bed or table, with their feet placed on the penetrator&39;s shoulders. The position gets its name thanks to the butterflyesque shape that is created by the bodies of the people doing it.
How it works.
Getting into the butterfly position is actually pretty easy: "The receiver lies on their back, and the penetrator stands above them and enters them," says sex educatorNiki DavisFainbloom. "To do this, you must find a surface that is the right height so that the penetrating object isalignedwith the receiver&39;s pelvis."
Make sure that the giver doesn&39;t have to reach up onto their tippytoes—they should be able to stand comfortably and sturdily. The person being penetrated then fans out their knees to the side and rests their feet on the penetrator&39;s shoulders.
Why you may want to try the position.
It&39;s low effort.
For the person being penetrated, there is very little movement required. Their back is nicely supported, and their legs are held up by the penetrator&39;s shoulders. Therefore, the butterfly is great for someone who is a little tired or who suffers from back pain, says Kyle Zrenchik, Ph.D., LMFT, ACS, a sex therapist and clinical director atALL IN Therapy Clinicin Minneapolis.
It hits the spot.
"The butterfly is the ultimate position for clitoral stimulation, as the clitoral gland is right there begging to be stimulated," says DavisFainbloom. Easy clit access means you can have the winning combo of penetration and clit action. Hello,blended orgasms.
It also hits the other spots!
"If you are penetrating your partner with either a dildo or penis that is curved upward, you may bring your partner increased pleasure in this position because it is a great angle tostimulate their prostateor Gspot," says Zrenchik. So butterfly is really suited to people who like deep internal stimulation.
It&39;s intimate.
The butterfly allows you to make a lot of eye contact, so it feelsmore sexually intimatethan positions likereverse cowgirlor doggy where partners aren&39;t facing each other. The butterfly is great for couples who are really looking to connect with each other and savor the moment.
It&39;s a solid workout.
For the penetrating partner, butterfly requires a moderate amount of energy and thrusting. Incorporating this position into your sex life will get your heart rate up and your muscles pumping. All good stuff! The more you do it, the more your stamina will improve.
