Sometimes you want to have sex and want to know how to get your partner in the mood. It's not hard to do that. Be open and honest, and be bold. There are many ways to start sex with your partner.
After getting consent, you can use words to initiate sex. Even in a long-term relationship, consent is extremely important.
If you don't know how to initiate sex, asking directly is a good choice. Just use cute and sexy questions, such as "Can I kiss you?" "Do you want to take something to the bedroom?"
Praise your partner to make them feel good.
After a long day, your lover's words of affirmation can bring happiness. First praise their personality, then praise their sexy appearance. For example, "You are so hardworking, thank you for your efforts", "You are busy today, help me with things, can I help you relax", "You look super sexy in a shirt, it matches your eyes very well".
Increase each other's desire through physical contact throughout the day.
Many people need to build up their sexual desire slowly, which can take hours with subtle ways like hugging, holding hands, and caressing arms when your partner is around.
These intimate little gestures can make your partner feel loved and possibly excited, and can also make bedroom activities seem more natural.
Sending sexy messages can make your partner look forward to what's next.
For example, send them a clear message like "Come here to the bedroom, I'll be waiting for you" on their way home.
Also, you can secretly tease your partner with sexting when there are other people present, such as sending naughty messages to your partner when there are children or family in the living room to warm up for the sexy time later.
Use silly jokes to create a relaxed atmosphere.
When you are with a long-term partner, sex doesn't need to be too serious. Don't put too much pressure on yourself. Try to open the atmosphere with inside jokes or silly questions to relieve both your own pressure and your partner's pressure.
For example, "I bought a new outfit today. Do you want to see how I look without it?" or "I'm trying to seduce you, but it's embarrassing. Is this working?"
Use massage to relax and excite your partner.
Specific steps: dim the lights, light candles, play relaxing music, invite your partner to lie down, and slide massage oil on their body, which can not only exercise muscles but also slowly move to more erotic areas.
To make the massage more sexy, you can undress with your partner. If you feel uncomfortable with oil on your body, you can take a shower together afterwards.
Wear sexy clothes to express desire, such as wearing favorite underwear, or just boxers, and approach your partner to ask for his or her opinion.
You can tease with a slightly shy posture, or you can tease directly. You can also wear a robe or a long windbreaker, slowly reveal it, and then take off the outer clothes under your partner's gaze.
Sexy toys and props can convey your state of mind.
You can put handcuffs on the bed or leave your favorite toys. These props will send a signal to your partner, hinting at the next arrangement.
Props don't have to be too sexy. Sometimes playing some music or turning off the TV can attract your partner's attention.
If you want to spice up the bedroom, buy a new toy for your partner to find. It will be an exciting surprise.
Use kissing and caressing to stimulate your partner's sexual desire.
Sex is good, but foreplay is better. Spending time with your partner before entering the formal session can make the sexual experience more enjoyable for both parties and give your partner enough time to get into the mood.
Oral sex is an effective way to excite your partner before the formal session.
If you are both busy, you can set a time period for sexual activities.
If you always feel that you don't have time to spend alone, setting a sex schedule is a good way to make time. Discuss with your partner to see if you are willing to arrange a few nights a week for each other to look forward to.
For example, if your partner knows you're having sex tonight, they'll try to relieve stress and stay in a good mood all day.
When all else fails, find out what your partner expects you to do next time.
Sex is a normal part of a healthy relationship, and you can talk about it with your partner at any time. If you're not sure what your partner likes or how you want to initiate sex, start a conversation.
This way, both parties can reach a consensus and keep their sex life going well in the future.
For example, you can ask, "How do you want me to start sex?"
"Do you like impromptu sex or do you need time to get used to it?"
"Do you like me to ____?"
