Do you want to excite your girlfriend in a crazy and creative way? If you want to connect with her and make the atmosphere lively, phone sex is a fun option to get to know each other, play together, and explore fantasies.
Ask your girlfriend for permission and confirm that both parties are on the same page about phone sex. You can first express that you want to make the relationship more interesting, and then observe her tone or text message emotions to judge her attitude.
If she is interested, encourage her to share ideas and ways to play, such as saying
"I have only seen phone sex in movies, but maybe we should try it? What do you think?"
"I missed you when you were away. I thought of a very interesting way to solve this problem. What do you think..." If she doesn't like it, respect her choice and find other ways to contact.
Create a safe space for her before and after the chat so that she can freely communicate her needs.
She may want to explore certain fantasies, but she may also have words or scenes that she doesn't want to mention.
Make sure she feels comfortable, such as asking, "What words really turn you on? What words are on our 'no' list?" Also find out what she's ideal for, such as asking, "Do you want to chat, sext, or video chat?" Both parties should share what they are comfortable with, because everyone's needs are reasonable.
Planning ahead for phone sex can make the call go smoothly. Even if she is open and excited about it, don't tell her out of the blue. Because she may be busy or want privacy when she calls. Ask her schedule first, plan the chat when she is free, and then send a flirty message on the day of the call to slightly arouse her enthusiasm and let her think about your text for a few hours, such as:
"I can't wait to hear your voice tonight. I bet I'll hear something you've never said before."
"When are you off? I have plans for you, but I can't talk while you're at work."
"Are you going to have privacy soon? You need it..."
Prepare topics to impress your girlfriend.
List phrases and exciting scenes that can excite her, find more resources and take notes to make yourself prepared and confident.
You can find inspiration from adult entertainment such as pornography, write short stories about her and share them on the phone, and list what you know about her, such as "She especially likes to break the rules."
Decide on the tone before calling. If she likes bold style, use a low and seductive voice; if she likes romance, use a gentle tone.
Get into the role and say what she likes privately to create a desire atmosphere. If you are bold enough, you can send a voice memo and record it repeatedly until it is appropriate.
The more you practice, the less nervous you will feel.
Create a romantic atmosphere to make yourself happy, clean the room, and prepare the items you need to spend a sexy moment together, such as tissues, toys, etc. Get comfortable before calling, even if she can't see you, she may feel your calm and confident.
Eliminate distractions, mute your phone, and focus on the call. If she can see you on the video, decorate the room as carefully as she will arrive. You can also prepare for the call by looking at her photos or fantasizing about her.
Ease her into the conversation with a lively comment or question, such as "Have you thought about the text I sent?" Then tell her what you've been thinking about all day and ask her what she thinks. After exchanging suggestive thoughts, take the initiative to heat things up, tempting her with phrases from the script or words like her favorite "nicknames." If she responds enthusiastically, you can be more bold.
Use humor to lighten the mood and avoid tension. There may be awkward moments in the conversation, such as laughing at a line or her giggling at something new, but that's okay. Having fun together can enhance your relationship and create an atmosphere of silly flirting.
Humor may also inspire more creative risk-taking, and you can laugh off even if you make a fool of yourself. And you can tease each other, which will make you excited while relaxing both of you and avoiding any sense of self-consciousness.
Open up and talk about other ideas you want to explore. When both parties are warmed up and both are adventurous, move forward in the desired direction. For example, if you are gentle at first and then want to try something more taboo, make sure both parties agree to the new attempt before discussing the specific details.
You can make light suggestions first, such as "This is so hot! What if we..."; ask for the other party's opinion, such as "Is this a little too gentle? I can..."; and check if there is anything missing, such as "Where should we take it now?"
Help her relax and relax yourself.
Let her know the impact she has on you and show you are excited, such as telling her "I lose my mind when you say...", and share her words or scenes you imagine that fascinate you.
When both parties are relaxed, she may be affected by you.
You can try video chatting and show each other how to touch yourself, so that you can better understand each other's bodies.
If both parties are willing to touch each other, they can find new ways to have fun even if they are far apart.
Tell her you'll keep calling her as long as you want, and let her say how she wants to end the conversation. Maybe she wants to try a new fantasy or has other plans to end the conversation. This will make her feel that you care about her.
You can ask questions like "What would be a fun way to end tonight?"
"Have I given you everything you need? I can continue."
"If you just want to chat, I'll still keep calling."
End the conversation with a sweet and gentle tone. Whether the call was impatient or full of love, a passionate farewell is appropriate.
Tell her you value her and compliment her creativity, for example, you can say
"I adore you. I've never been so happy before."
"I've never seen you like this before! I can't believe these words came out of your mouth!"
"That's crazy, baby! I'm totally lost."
Follow up and let her know that you value her and are committed to your relationship. Emphasize that she is lucky to be willing to try new things. You can compliment her to boost her confidence, such as "I love that you always try, you are the perfect partner", "Thanks for your performance last night, you are amazing", "Replay the last call in my mind, I adore you".
