Anal orgasms are those that result from stimulation of the anus, which is filled with sensitive nerve endings. While penis owners can experience unique prostate orgasms through anal stimulation, anal orgasms are possible regardless of gender and sexual orientation.
Practicing safer anal sex and maintaining good hygiene are key to any type of anal sex.
• Cleanliness
The anus naturally contains bacteria that can be spread during anal sex. Having vaginal sex immediately after anal sex can lead to vaginal infections. Always remember to change condoms and wash your body before and after anal sex. Pathogens that can be spread through oral-anal sex (also known as rimming or anal sex) can include E. coli and the hepatitis A virus. If you plan to engage in anal sex, consider using an oral dam.
• Lubrication
Proper lubrication is essential for any form of anal sex. Start by applying a generous amount of lubricant in and around the anus. Apply additional lubricant to your fingers, penis, or sex toys before insertion, and reapply frequently. Consider using water-based lubricants or silicone-based lubricants, which last longer. (Oil-based lubricants are not suitable for use with condoms because they break down latex.)
• Communicate
Before you have anal sex with your partner, make sure you have their consent.
Experiencing anal orgasms requires patience and practice. These techniques can help you achieve anal orgasms with or without a partner.
1. Relax your anal sphincter
Masturbate or try foreplay techniques with your partner; take a bath, light a few candles, and play sexy music before having anal sex. Other types of orgasms, such as clitoral orgasms, can help relax your sphincter and increase your chances of anal orgasms.
2. Start with your fingers
First, try anal masturbation on your own. Apply lubricant to your anus and pinky finger, then gently slide your pinky finger inside your anus. Let your finger rest there for a while to let your body get used to the feeling. Once you feel comfortable, reapply lubricant and use a larger finger. Be patient with yourself. It takes time to get used to anal insertion—proper anal training can take weeks or even months. Make sure you have experience with your fingers or smaller toys before moving on to a penis or strap-on dildo.
3. Explore with sex toys
Some sex toys are specifically designed to stimulate the anal nerves; these include butt plugs, anal beads, prostate massagers, and anal dildos. An important thing to look for when choosing anal toys is whether the handle has a flared base or ring to ensure the toy doesn't accidentally slip into the rectum. Anal toys are usually made of silicone or stainless steel, and some come with vibration settings. These toys require plenty of lubrication and regular washing with warm water and a mild soap or sex toy cleaner.
4. Try it with a partner
Before trying anal sex, consider licking your anus with your tongue or gently stroking it with your fingers. Try several anal sex positions until you find one that works for you and your partner.
5. Explore different techniques
If you're the giver, ask your partner for feedback and pay attention to how they respond to each technique. Consider stimulating the pudendal nerve, which is a major nerve that runs through the perineum, or the area between the genitals and the anus. If your partner has a penis, try inserting a finger about two to four inches deep into the anus, slanting upward toward your belly button. You should feel the prostate, a hard, walnut-sized gland, through the front wall of your rectum.
6. Stimulate other erogenous zones
During anal sex or anal massage, focus on stimulating other erogenous zones, such as the scrotum, clitoris, neck, or nipples. Ask your partner which erogenous zones give them pleasure. For those with a vulva, try stimulating the anterior fornix (also known as the A-spot), which is located inside the vagina between the cervix and bladder. You can also practice stimulating the clitoris during anal sex to enhance pleasure.
