BDSM can be a super enjoyable and exciting way to connect with your partner and experience some incredible erotic sensations.
Your BDSM for Beginners Essentials
There are a whole lot of different toys and accessories out there under the headings ‘bondage’ or ‘BDSM’.
Here’s a selection of beginners’ BDSM products that will get you started in your journey
Blindfold
A blindfold is the starting place when deciding to delve into BDSM. It makes any bondage play all the more exciting, and is a must-have for your collection.
Feather Tickler
A feather tickler is a non-intimidating way to up your sensory teasing. Use gentle strokes of the elegant Bondage Boutique Luxury Ostrich Feather Tickler to titillate your partner’s sensitive areas, and pair with a blindfold for even more sexiness.
Nipple Clamps or Suckers
Nipple stimulation can unlock a whole world of arousal and orgasms, whatever your gender, and nipple suckers are a gentle way to achieve it. Simply squeeze the bulbs of the Lovehoney Color-Changing Silicone Nipple Suckers and then release them over the nipples to create a mild vacuum that draws blood to the surface of the skin and makes the nipples super sensitive. These ones even change color with your body heat!
For a more intense feeling and a more BDSM-aesthetic, nipple clamps are the way to go. The silicone tips of the Bondage Boutique Rose Gold Nipple Clamps pinch the nipples delightfully and can be adjusted to your desired levels of pain and pleasure.
Massage Candle
Experiment with temperature play with a massage candle or three. The LELO Flickering Touch Massage Candle are body-safe and even edible, so you can craft the perfect sensual mood and tantalize your partner with warm wax sensations. As a bonus, the natural oils in the candles nourish and moisturize the skin, too.
Paddle
If you want to add a little pleasurable pain to your beginners BDSM sessions, try out a spanking paddle. This Lovehoney Premium Faux Leather Paddle is ideal for beginners – it has a satin-y padded side for sensual strokes and a solid faux leather side for smacks and slaps.
Flogger
Floggers are versatile sensory tools. They can be used similarly to a feather tickler to tease and caress the skin, before building to quick flicks and swings once your partner is super sensitive. The Dominix Deluxe Thick Leather Flogger looks perfectly at home in a BDSM dungeon but is easy to use and feels fantastic.
Handcuffs
Handcuffs are another essential when it comes to BDSM for beginners. Soft handcuffs like these ones from Fifty Shades are hard metal restraint with quick-release clips that can be attached to each other or other restraints like ankle cuffs or bed straps.
Bed Restraints
Turn up the heat and restrict your sub’s movement even further by using a bondage restraint kit like this one from Lovehoney’s Fifty Shades of Grey collection. Four soft cuffs can be attached to adjustable bed straps to transform your bedroom into a sexy dungeon. Quick to set up and easy to use, this set is ideal for BDSM newbies.
Gag
Ball gags and BDSM often go hand-in-hand, and, by removing their ability to speak, can really make sub restrained and helpless. If the idea of a gag is a turn-on but you’re intimidated by the size of a ball, try a bar-shaped bit gag. The DOMINIX Deluxe Leather Bit Gag sits between the teeth so you can’t speak, but it doesn’t fill the mouth quite so much and can be pushed out of the mouth by the tongue if worn more loosely.
Another BDSM beginner-friendly option is a breathable ball gag with holes in, like the Sportsheets Saffron Breathable Ball Gag. The biteable silicone ball is an approachable 1.5 inches in diameter and has three bored holes that allow you to breathe more easily. Just beware of drool!
Bondage Tape
Go wild with restraint with a roll of bondage tape! This bondage tape from Lovehoney makes it easier to tie up your sub however you choose. Use it to tie their wrists or to tie them to a piece of furniture without having to buy specialized equipment or worrying about buckles or knots. It’s also totally body- and furniture-safe, as it only sticks to itself, not skin, hair or anything else.
Penis Ring
Penis rings work by discouraging blood from flowing away from the penis and can have a whole host of great-feeling effects, including enhanced sensations for the wearer, increased stamina and even stronger erections! If you’re a first-timer who wants some gentle constriction, check out the Tantus Super Soft C-Ring which is comfortable while still providing lots of pleasure.
Remote Control Panty Vibrator
Remote control vibrators can be awesome toys for BDSM beginners, allowing the dom to take control of their sub’s pleasure by turning on and off the sensations at will. The Lovense Ferri is featured in our best-in-test list of panty vibrators for a reason! It locks onto any pair of panties and sits snugly against the clitoris and vulva. Control the 12 vibration modes from up to 33 ft away – perfect for the bedroom or some discreet public teasing, too!
Remote Control Love Egg
We love Lovense’s range of remote control egg vibrators! They sit wonderfully inside the vagina and deliver some serious vibrations straight to the g-spot. The Lovense Lush 3 is their latest model, and feels better than ever. It’s controlled via app, which has almost endless functions for controlling the vibrations, and can be used to dominate your partner’s pleasure from anywhere in the world!
Remote Control Butt Plug
The great thing about butt plugs is that any BDSM beginners can enjoy them! Add vibrations to the mix, and you’ve got a recipe for some serious anal pleasure. If you want a remote control anal vibrator that you can use to tease and tantalize your partner, try the b-Vibe Trio Vibrating Butt Plug. It offers an incredible sense of fullness and will leave you or your partner begging for more, though whether you give it to them or not is your choice…
Anal Beads
Many people balk at the mention of anal beads, but they’re not as scary as they might seem, and can open up a world of thrills. Start by inserting the tapered end of the Romp Amp Anal Beads and then go further as the sensations get better and better. For a firework finish, grip the loop and pull the beads out as your partner reaches orgasm for incredible enhanced sensations.
