Orgasm, a topic that countless people desire but are kept secret, is always shrouded in mystery. According to the Kinsey Institute for Sex Research, about 40% of women in the world have never experienced orgasm, and women who can clearly describe their feelings are rare. Today, we reveal the truth of this private experience through the true self-narration of many women.
The physiological mechanism of orgasm is like a delicate symphony, involving the synergy of neurotransmitters, hormones and muscles. When the brain releases dopamine and oxytocin, the whole body will experience the following changes:
• Pelvic floor muscle spasm: The vaginal sphincter contracts 3-12 times at intervals of 0.8 seconds, accompanied by rhythmic contractions of the uterus.
• Sensory overload: Touch, hearing, and vision are instantly sharp, and you can even feel your partner's heartbeat.
• Blood vessels dilate: The clitoris is congested and swollen, the skin has an "orgasmic flush", and blood pressure soars to 1.5 times the daily average.
Self-reported cases
• Alice (32 years old, teacher): "It felt like being hit by an electric current, my toes curled up unconsciously, and my throat made uncontrollable moans. After it was over, my whole body was weak, like soaking in a hot spring."
• Luna (28 years old, designer): "When I climaxed, my eyes went black, my muscles trembled uncontrollably, and I felt my soul leaving my body."
Orgasm is not only a physiological peak, but also a catalyst for emotional connection. Studies have shown that the oxytocin secreted by the brain during orgasm can enhance trust and intimacy between partners. But emotional experience varies from person to person:
• Intimacy: In long-term partnerships, orgasm is often accompanied by a sense of security of "being fully accepted".
• Self-exploration: Some women explore the secrets of their bodies through masturbation and experience the freedom of "self-control".
• Trauma repair: Women who have been sexually assaulted may rebuild trust in their bodies through sex therapy.
Self-reported cases
Sophie (40 years old, psychologist): "My first orgasm with my partner made me cry. The feeling of being understood was more shocking than the pleasure itself."
Grace (25 years old, student): "The orgasm during masturbation made me realize that happiness can be independent of others."
The manifestation of orgasm varies greatly, and is affected by many factors such as physiological structure, psychological state, and cultural background:
1. Physiological differences
About 30% of women have "G-spot orgasms", which are triggered by stimulating the anterior wall of the vagina.
Some women can achieve "multiple orgasms", while men usually need a refractory period of 20 minutes.
2. Cultural imprint
Western culture regards orgasm as a "sign of success" in sexual intercourse, causing 65% of women to feel anxious because they cannot reach orgasm during penetrative intercourse.
Some traditional communities believe that orgasm is "shameful", and there are even cases where women suppress orgasm for life because their partners interrupt sexual intercourse.
Self-reported cases
Mei (35 years old, executive of a multinational company): "When I was studying abroad, I found that women could discuss orgasms openly; after returning home, I suppressed my sexual desire due to cultural pressure."
Anna (50 years old, housewife): "I have never had an orgasm in 30 years of marriage, but the intimacy between my husband and I has not diminished because of this."
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