You might find that you need time and practice to get to know your body, along with your partner’s. This is totally normal, so don’t be alarmed if your first few sexual experiences aren’t as perfect as you imagined! There are a few things that can help make sure you’re both enjoying sex.
Keep talking to each other
– your partner may well appreciate hearing if something they’re doing is something you like, and likewise you should ask them how they’re enjoying what you’re doing.
It’s not all about penetration
– for many women, penetration is just one part of sexual pleasure – remember that gentle stimulation of other areas such as the clitoris can feel great!
Consider condoms and lube
– not only do these help you stay safe while enjoying sex, but they can help make sex feel even better! Lube helps penetration, and feels good. There are a variety of different condoms that add to the pleasure of sex.
An orgasm (coming or climaxing) happens when you are very aroused, tension builds up in your body, the sexual pressure is then released in a sudden pleasurable rush. For women the most sensitive part of their body is the clitoris, a small bump just above the opening to the vagina. It is full of nerve endings and very sensitive to touch. Many women need their clitoris to be stimulated to have an orgasm. You can try different positions for vaginal sex that allow you to move your bodies in a way that rubs the clitoris. Some people choose for them or their partner to touch the clitoris during penetrative sex to stimulate it.
For most men the action involved in thrusting the penis in the vagina stimulates the nerve endings in the penis and causes them to orgasm.
Don’t worry if you don’t have an orgasm straight away or even at all. It takes time to get to know what works for you and for your partner. Both men and women can enjoy vaginal sex even if it does not make them climax.
