Chastityis a type of play where one partner is denied sexual release, and both partners find it exciting. Often it involves the use of devices like cock cages, chastity belts or sheathes to prevent the one in chastity from getting off… while also adding to the fun by making them constantly aware of their lockedaway genitals.
For many people, chastity play is something they do for short periods when they’re together – during play sessions or dates. But there’s no reason not to play with chastity over longer periods. Some people enjoy engaging in chastity play over the course of days, weeks, or months –even on a “permanent” basis.
♦ Why do people like longterm chastity?
There are many reasons why people enjoy longterm chastity play. Here are a few…
Longterm chastity is exciting
Being locked away for long periods of time can be an exciting experience. That may seem counterintuitive at first – after all, what’s exciting aboutnotgetting off? But, the simple act of not being able to cum whenever you feel like it makes some menmorehorny rather thanless.
This is, in part, a physiological thing: if you don’t cum as often, the orgasms you do have will be more intense. It’s also a mental thing: if you can only cum once in a blue moon, it’s really quite exciting when you do get to cum. And, of course, there’s the hot and squirmy pleasure of spending hours, days or even weeks fantasising about your next release.
Longterm chastity shifts focus (and might make you a better lover)
Some people who try longterm chastity report that it improves their sex life, and makes them a more attentive lover. Not being able to use their cock (unless their keyholding partner allows them to) means that men in chastity have to learn to enjoy sex in ways that transcend juststicking it in.
Men in chastity may become better at, for example, giving oral pleasure – both because (with their cock unavailable) they do it more often… and because the emphasis has been shifted fromtheir pleasuretotheir partner’s pleasure.
This gradual shift to being more invested in their partner’s pleasure is one of the most widelyreported (and rather wholesome) results of longterm male chastity.
It enforces loyalty
A man whose cock is locked in a cage cannot help but be loyal to their keyholding partner. After all, their keyholderliterallyis the only person who has access to them.
Obviously, having your partner wear a chastity cage is notactuallya realistic way of keeping them from playing with anyone but you… but it can be fun to play around with the idea of enforced loyalty within a dominant/submissive dynamic nonetheless.
Longterm chastity makes you feel constantly connected
The weight of a cock cage between your legs is an allday everyday reminder of your keyholding partner. It’s a way to feel connected even when you’re apart. It’s a way to take your play from ajustinthebedroomthing to analldayeverydaything.
And, of course, it’s worth noting that chastity is something you can play with even when you’re a long way away from one another.Here are some suggestions for engaging in chastity play at a distance.
♦ Caveat: the internet isn’t real life
You can find a lot of horny stories penned by men in longterm chastity floating around the internet. While these are a fun read, as horny things go, it’s also worth noting that most of them are somewhat fictionalised.
When people answer questions about longterm chastity on FetLife boards or questionandanswer forums like Quora they often don’t give their honest experience, and instead engage in a kind of roleplay – writing out a horny fantasy of longterm chastity as though it’s really happening to them, and playing along with others who pen similar fantasies.
If you’re new to these online spaces (or to chastity play) it might not be clear at first glance that this is what’s happening. You might think that the things you read online are real accounts of things that people have really done.
They’re not, though. So don’t measureyourenjoyment of chastity against what you read online.
♦ Caveat: have you tried the honour system?
Cock cages cost money, and can be fiddly things to integrate into your life on a longterm basis. For this reason, many people who enjoy playing with chastity do so without a cage – using the honour system to keep the “caged” partner from getting off.
This is totally viable, and a fun and free way to engage with chastity play.
That said, cock cages are a lot of fun. If you can deal with some of the difficulties inherent in using them for longterm play, you might find them enjoyably worthwhile.
♦ Considerations for longterm cock cage wear
Here are some things to consider if you do want to use a cock cage on a more longterm basis.
Comfort during longterm chastity
Wearing a cock cage (even for a long time)shouldbe a comfortable experience. Really the onlydiscomfort you should feel is as a result of getting erections while wearing the cage, or being so horny that you don’t know what to do with yourself.
Naturally you might also experience some chafing or pinching when wearing a cage longterm… but these can be minimised by wearing a cage that’s the right size for your cock, and taking frequent breaks (see “supervised release during longterm chastity” below).
Many people find that being completely shaved (or waxed, or veeted) makes for a more comfortable fit: the cage slides into place more easily, and there are no hairs to get caught in the locking mechanism. You may wish to shave, wax or use hairremoval cream before you go into your cage, and at regular intervals throughout your period of longterm chastity.
Conversely, some people find that removing hair makes their skin more sensitive, and thusincreasesdiscomfort when wearing a cage. If this is the case, try shaving/waxing/removing hair a day or twobeforeyou’re due to be caged to give your skin a chance to recover.
Keeping clean in longterm chastity
Having a big hunk of metal or plastic locked to your junk can make keeping things clean a little tricky. It’s basically impossible to properly clean your cock with the cage in place. For that reason you might want to schedule in a supervised release each day (for example, while showering) to get clean. Make sure your cock and balls are completely dry before putting the cage back on.
Whenever you clean yourself, also clean the cage. You can rinse it in the shower with you, wipe it down with skinsafe cleaning wipes, or even stick it in the dishwasher if it’s made of stainless steel.
Also, whenever cleaning yourself, give your junk a quick look over to check for any chafing. If you notice any, you should give yourself a break until it heals. Chafing should be minimal with a correctlysized cage. Wellfitting underwear can also help to hold the cage in place and prevent cage movement that might lead to chafing.
If a daily supervised release is not possible, you should at least arrange one with your keyholding partner every few days.
Pissing with a cage on can be tricky. You will, of course, have to sit down to do so. Stray spray can be reduced by ensuring that your cage isn’t too big or too small. If the fit isjust rightthe tip of your member should line up well with the handy little piss slot on most cages.
Supervised release during longterm chastity
Even if everything is fine and you notice no chafing, it’s good to give yourself a break from chastity once in a while. Many people advise occasionally sleeping without your cage. Most cocks get hard intermittently throughout the night, and it’s thought that it’s good for your general cockhealth to sometimes allow it to do so.
It’s up to you and your keyholder to decide if you get to get off during your regular releases. Not being allowed to ejaculate might lead to some oozing of precum when you’re horny, but shouldn’t have any serious health effects.
Emergency release during longterm chastity
Your keyholder might not always be nearby to let you out of your cage… even if there’s a good reason why you need to be released. For emergencies, it’s good to have a spare key on hand at all times.
To prevent casual usage of this emergency release key, you may wish to put it somewhere inconvenient – perhaps in a sealed jar that must be broken to access the key, or in a tin of paint that must be spilled. Storing an emergency key in this way prevents it being misused for unsupervised releases.
♦ Myths about longterm chastity
There are a good few myths about longterm chastity. Here are a few of them.
Cock shrinkage
Lots of people report that their cock shrinks after using a cock cage for a long time. There’s no evidence that this is true.
As you play with cock cages more and get used to wearing them, you might find that you’re able to fit yourself into a smaller cage than you could before. This is the result of you becoming more adept at putting the cage on, and more relaxed and confident at handling it.
You also might feel a bit emasculated, and have the feeling that your cock (now basically useless) is smaller than it was before. This is entirely in your head… but that doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy it.
Erectile dysfunction
Does wearing a cock cage for a long period of time cause erectile dysfunction? Many people believe this. One common rationale is that a cage prevents your cock from ever getting hard… and cycles of hardness and softness are natural for a cock.
There’s no real evidence that wearing a cock cage longterm causes erectile dysfunction – especially if you keep it clean, take regular breaks and put a pause on things if you don’t feel comfortable.
Indeed, almost all users note that their ability to get erections when they want to is not impacted – and, in many cases, users find themselves waymorehorny after a period in a cage than they were before.
