An external prostate orgasm, also known as an external prostate stimulation orgasm, involves stimulating the prostate through external areas of the body, rather than the more common internal approach (through the rectum). The prostate is a small gland located between the bladder and the rectum, and external stimulation can lead to powerful orgasms without direct penetration.
The perineum is the area between the scrotum and the anus, and it is the external area closest to the prostate. Gently massaging or applying pressure to this region can stimulate the prostate indirectly.
• How to do it: Use your fingers or a massage tool to apply gentle pressure or circular motions to the perineum, either with or without lubrication. You can experiment with the amount of pressure and speed, adjusting based on what feels most pleasurable. Some people may find it helpful to use firm, steady pressure, while others may prefer light, rhythmic movements.
Vibrators designed for perineal or prostate use can provide indirect stimulation to the prostate through the perineum. Vibrating devices that target the perineal area can provide a sensation that closely mimics internal prostate stimulation.
• How to do it: Apply a vibrator designed for external prostate or perineum stimulation to the area between the anus and the scrotum. You can find specialized vibrating devices that are designed to apply vibrations to this sensitive spot and trigger pleasurable sensations that may lead to prostate orgasms.
Kegel exercises help strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, which can enhance sexual pleasure and increase sensitivity to prostate stimulation, including external methods. A strong pelvic floor will also help with controlling orgasms and amplifying the sensations when external stimulation is applied.
• How to do it: Practice squeezing and relaxing the pelvic floor muscles (the muscles you use to stop urination). By strengthening these muscles, you'll improve the intensity of orgasms, whether through external prostate stimulation or other methods.
Gently massaging the area around the lower abdomen, just above the pubic bone, can also stimulate the prostate indirectly. The prostate is located near the front of the rectum, and by pressing or massaging the area in this region, some people report heightened sexual pleasure.
• How to do it: Use the flat of your hands or fingers to gently press into the lower abdomen, just above the pubic bone. Gentle circular or upward pressure in this area can simulate the feeling of internal prostate pressure, and when combined with other methods, it can enhance orgasmic experiences.
There are external prostate massagers that are designed specifically to stimulate the perineum area in ways that can mimic the internal sensations of prostate orgasms. These devices are designed to fit comfortably between the scrotum and anus, where the perineum lies.
• How to do it: These massagers typically have a curved shape and can be placed against the perineum, where they apply steady pressure. Many of these devices also have vibrating features to intensify the sensations.
Mindfulness and focus are crucial for reaching an external prostate orgasm. Relaxation techniques like deep breathing, visualization, or focusing on the sensations in the pelvic region can help you become more aware of the pleasure you're experiencing.
• How to do it: As you're stimulating the perineum or using a vibrator, focus on your breath—deep, slow inhales and exhales—and try to relax your body. This mental focus will enhance the pleasure and help you achieve a stronger orgasm, even without internal penetration.
Many people find that combining several methods of external prostate stimulation works best. For example, using a perineal vibrator while simultaneously practicing Kegel exercises or pressing on the lower abdomen can create a multi•layered sensation that leads to a powerful orgasm.
