To finger a woman to orgasm, the focus should be on her pleasure and comfort. It's about listening to her body, being patient, and adjusting your approach based on her responses.
• Relaxation: Make sure she feels relaxed and safe. Orgasm is often easier to achieve when someone feels comfortable and unpressured. Take time with foreplay to build arousal, kissing, and touching, focusing on her pleasure.
• Lubrication: Natural lubrication is key. If she isn’t producing enough, use a water•based lube to reduce friction and increase comfort.
• Tease and Warm Up: Begin by gently caressing her outer thighs, hips, and vagina. Use light touches or kisses around the labia to help build anticipation. Slowly part her lips and explore with a light touch on the outer labia and clitoris.
• Clitoral Stimulation: The clitoris is a highly sensitive area for most women. Use your fingers to gently stroke the clitoris in circular motions, side•to•side, or lightly tapping it. Start gently and increase pressure gradually based on her responses.
• Finger Insertion: When she’s aroused enough, gently insert one or two fingers into her vagina. Use your fingers to gently stroke the front wall of her vagina (toward the belly button). The G•spot is located about 2•3 inches inside, and it’s slightly rougher than the surrounding tissue.
• Come Here Motion: Use the "come here" motion with your fingers, gently curling them upward toward her front vaginal wall. This targets the G•spot, which can feel like a pleasurable pressure.
• Simultaneous Stimulation: Many women find that combining both clitoral and internal (G•spot) stimulation increases their chances of orgasm. You can continue rubbing her clitoris with your thumb or another finger while you stimulate her G•spot.
• Rhythmic Motion: While fingering her, use a steady, rhythmic motion that matches the way her body responds. Pay attention to her breathing, body movements, and verbal cues to determine if you need to speed up or slow down.
• Breathing and Body Language: When she’s nearing orgasm, her breathing will likely become heavier and more rapid. She may also tense her pelvic muscles or her whole body. These are signs to increase speed or pressure, or to adjust if necessary.
• Ask Her: Don’t hesitate to ask her for feedback. She can guide you on what feels best, whether it’s pressure, speed, or the type of touch.
• Clitoral Sensitivity: As she gets closer to orgasm, the clitoris may become more sensitive. Some women prefer lighter touches as they approach climax, while others may want more pressure. Pay attention to how her body reacts and adjust accordingly.
• Intensity: If she’s very close to orgasm, you can increase the intensity, speed, or depth of your finger movements. Be sure to balance this with sensitive clitoral stimulation.
