Women are more likely to be influenced by traditional ideas and believe that "self-consolation" is uncivilized or even vulgar behavior, thus avoiding or suppressing the desire to "self-consolation".
The proportion and cognition of "self-consolation" among female students:
A survey showed that among 973 students from freshman to junior year in a certain university, the "self-consolation" rate of male students was 82.1%, while the "self-consolation" rate of female students was 34.2%.
A study conducted a survey on adult women of different ages in Guangzhou and found that among women of all ages, 30.6% had "self-consolation" experience. Foreign data from the same period showed that the "self-consolation" rates of women in the United States, the United Kingdom, and Australia were 38%[3], 36.8%, and 35%, respectively, indicating that the incidence of "self-consolation" among women in various countries is roughly the same. However, a German survey found that most (94.5%) women said they had "self-consoled" at least once in their lives.
@焕焕, 23 years old, confidential
When I was in high school, I was invited by my sister to watch porn at home, and then I slowly opened the road of masturbation. There are many ways to masturbate, and there are really many ways to orgasm. Until now, I still maintain the habit of masturbating once or twice a week.
I think masturbation can make me feel relaxed and happy, so I will occasionally please my body. Because I think it is important to please myself and my body, as long as I can maintain this degree.
@卡哇伊, 24 years old, accountant
My boyfriend and I are very harmonious in sex, but we both feel a little boring with a single doi, and always want more stimulation and passion, so we started to try these sex products, hoping that they can add more passion to our sex.
It makes our sex richer and more interesting, makes our sex orgasm more perfect, and has more game methods than the previous simple doi method of just changing positions, so we get more happiness. I think using them will not affect the quality of two people's doi, but will only make it more beautiful and full of fun.
@尧尧, 32 years old, writer
I used to have illusions about love, but after one or two disappointments, I let the "happy device" into my life, and it made me feel great. Now I feel that I hate men more and more, hate that they fall asleep after orgasm, and even hate their breath.
As for those men who know how to be gentle and considerate, and have extraordinary temperament, they are just rare "top-quality" in reality, so before meeting them, I would rather say bye-bye to men forever.
@猫猫, 25 years old, white-collar
Few men can keep pace with women in sex. Women can have orgasms repeatedly, but can men? When I still want it, I have to ask the man if it's okay, and for sex toys, as long as there are enough batteries, it's fine.
The feeling of using sex toys is obviously different from having sex with men. In addition to being able to control it 100% and being more stimulating, the cleanliness and safety of sex toys are also the reasons why I like it the most.
In this open era, sex toys are no longer unfamiliar, but in people's traditional concepts, women are not allowed to touch these so-called masturbators. In fact, masturbation is not a sin, it is a normal way for people to vent their sexual desire. Men can masturbate, and women can also enjoy this "privilege".
Therefore, women who have the habit of masturbation must learn more about masturbation and look at masturbation correctly.
A reader consulted me and asked her if she had been “self-comforting” since elementary school and continued until she graduated from college, doing it about once or twice a day. Is this normal and will it have any impact on the body?
Everyone is worried about whether it is harmful to start “self-comforting” so early and do it so often.
A foreign study investigated the age and frequency of “self-comfort” among girls[6] and found that the average age of girls’ first “self-comfort” was 14 years old. Therefore, it is possible to engage in “self-comfort” in the fifth or sixth grade of elementary school or the first or second grade of junior high school.
Most girls reported that they “self-comfort” 2-3 times a week (26.8%) or once a week (26.3%). Factors independently related to the frequency of “self-comfort” were “whether they are in a relationship”, “frequency of aphrodisiacs”, “openness to new experiences” and “body acceptance”.
In this study, almost all women (91.5%) said they would “self-comfort” when they were in a relationship. 50.3% of people said that they can always reach orgasm when "self-comforting".
So, whether you have a partner or not, you can "self-comfort". Don't think that you can only meet your sexual needs through sex if you have a partner. Moreover, you are more likely to get orgasm when "self-comforting". Isn't it good to make yourself happy?
Whether the frequency of "self-comforting" is appropriate depends on whether the current sexual needs can be met through appropriate methods or channels, and whether you feel distressed about the current sexual state, or hate yourself and thus have negative psychological or physical discomfort.
Some people may have more needs, but they can handle the relationship between "self-comfort" and life well. For example, "self-comforting" before going to bed to please yourself, sleep comfortably, and the next day you are energetic and calm to deal with study, work, and life.
When you get busy, you may not think about "self-comforting" for a few days. In this case, even if you do it once a day, there is nothing wrong, let alone sex addiction.
However, if you continue to "comfort yourself" regardless of the consequences, and you want to stop but can't, and you feel disgusted with your behavior and feel pain, you may need to consult a psychologist.
It is not embarrassing for women to masturbate. Proper masturbation has many benefits for women, so women should look at masturbation correctly.
① Masturbation is a free sleeping pill
Masturbation can hypnotize. Many people think that masturbation is a way to satisfy their own needs because they are not satisfied with sex and have no sex partner. But in fact, masturbation is a way to relax, and it is a complete relaxation. It is a perfect free hypnotic without side effects.
② Masturbation is a normal way of expressing sex
In the eyes of many girls, masturbation is shameful, dirty, unhealthy, and they have always believed that masturbation is harmful. But with the promotion of popular science knowledge, more and more people know that masturbation is actually a common and normal way of expressing sex for humans, and it has the same feelings as doi.
③Masturbation is not a male "patent"
Masturbation is not a male "patent", women can also masturbate. The frequency of female masturbation is relatively low, and masturbation can also give women sexual satisfaction and a sense of relaxation and pleasure of body and mind. And for many women, self-comfort is the only way to experience orgasm.
④Masturbation prepares for adult sex
A number of modern sex education studies have found that masturbation is an excellent way to "self-body exploration". Through masturbation, we can better understand our bodies and our sexual needs. This paves the way for adult sex, and after having a sex partner, masturbation will not stop abruptly, but the frequency will be low.
① Gently stroke the clitoris
Many women often gently stroke their clitoris when masturbating. Of course, they do not stimulate the clitoris directly, but are used to rubbing the side of the clitoris with their fingers, and then put a finger around the clitoris, stimulating the clitoris back and forth rhythmically, and slightly squeezing it.
To reach orgasm, one factor is the force of squeezing, one is the rhythmic stimulation movement, and the other is to protect the clitoris from direct stimulation. To achieve the last point, you need to stimulate the clitoris with the skin around the clitoris. Finally, tighten the G-door muscles and focus on the orgasm, which will help the orgasm come.
② Both hands
Usually, women rarely use both hands when masturbating, but in fact you can touch the clitoris with one hand and put the fingers of the other hand into the clitoris or touch the G-door. At first you can touch your whole body and then touch the more numb parts. Try all the positions until you reach orgasm.
③ Use a vibrator
If you feel that your fingers can't really satisfy you, you can also use other auxiliary tools, such as a vibrator. It can accurately massage the most needed parts of your body when you masturbate and satisfy all your deep desires.
I believe that everyone has clamped the quilt between their legs when masturbating, and then rubbed it continuously. The same is true for placing the vibrator between the legs, especially when you stick the vibrator between the thighs in the pubic crack and vibrate it up and down. One leg is usually bent up at the knee, and the other leg is spread out, moving the body upward to receive the downward vibration of the vibrator. You can also put the vibrator into the vagina, pull it out of the vagina, and pump it back and forth, just like apricot intercourse.
④ Explore slowly
As long as the vibrating toy has electricity, it will vibrate forever, enough for you to explore every part of the body and find the place that makes you like it the most. Most women use this kind of toys to stimulate the honey bean, and they claim that the honey bean responds to vibration stimulation much stronger than other parts, but more women claim that other parts can also bring completely different feelings. Therefore, it is completely necessary to prepare two or more different vibrating toys.
⑤ Experience different speeds
Most vibrating toys have a speed adjustment function. Start with low speed mode. If the low speed mode still makes you feel too strong, please wrap it with a towel and try again, or reduce the force of the toy pressing on the skin. You may find that the best feeling for different parts of the body corresponds to different vibration speeds and intensities.
⑥Light
Finally, it is the surrounding environment. Not everyone can accept using toys under bright lights, and vision cannot arouse their desire. Light will make you use toys more freely and solve problems more quickly. Too dark may not be convenient for operating toys. It makes it easier for you to find your most sensitive and comfortable parts.
Women's orgasms have always been more complicated and secretive than men's. Now, with the existence of masturbators, women can control and get the pleasure of orgasm without relying on men. Therefore, women's masturbation is a normal physiological phenomenon. Women who have the habit of masturbation should never feel inferior.
Finally, I would like to remind everyone that you must pay attention to using the right methods and tools when masturbating. At the same time, if you use a masturbator to comfort yourself, you must understand the usage and precautions of the masturbator in advance to avoid damaging the vagina during masturbation.
