Q: I am a teacher in a kindergarten. A boy in the class has brought his mother&39;s underwear to school three times. According to his mother, he has recently asked to touch his mother&39;s breasts before going to sleep, and often asks her questions about bras. I have started to deal with this boy&39;s problem, but I also want to hear more opinions from others. What do you think is the best way to deal with it? A: In terms of children&39;s sexual development, since they have the physiological basis of sexual organs at birth, they will have sexual reactions when they are sexually excited; in the infant stage, they often explore their genitals with their hands, similar to masturbation. These activities can be regarded as a normal manifestation of children&39;s "seeking knowledge". As children grow older, they are not only curious about their own bodies, but also full of desire to explore the differences between men and women and the birth of life. Therefore, it is natural for young children to be curious about sex.
In life, the relationship between children and parents, the experience of interacting with others, and the information from television media will affect children&39;s understanding of sex; among them, the establishment of a close relationship between parents and children, and the attitude of parents towards children&39;s sexual curiosity are often the key factors for young children to establish a correct concept of sex.
In the past, we often regarded sex as a taboo, and most parents, due to their own lack of knowledge, often hid information related to sex, or passed the responsibility to time or school teachers. However, the information circulating in the media recently is very diverse, and children can easily get sex-related information or hints, and show curiosity about sex in words and behavior. At this time, if parents fail to answer or guide them in time, incorrect sexual concepts may be imprinted in the child&39;s mind and affect his future cognition of sex.
The various "special" behaviors of the boy in your class seem to be quite worrying, but if you look at it from the perspective of young children&39;s curiosity about sex, it is just another form of curiosity. Therefore, it is recommended that you do not rush to use deterrence or persuasion to reduce the occurrence of similar behaviors in children, and first talk to the boy&39;s mother about the countermeasures. You may wish to discuss with her the various situations in which you get along with your child, and lead her to play a better role as a guide to establish the child&39;s correct sexual concept.
As for the habit of touching the breast before falling asleep, although this is an intimate behavior between parents and children, if the child is too addicted to it, he will not learn to respect other people&39;s bodies, so this kind of behavior should be reduced as much as possible.
You can suggest that mothers face their children&39;s doubts about sexual knowledge calmly, and first understand and determine the doubts of the young children, and then give concise and true answers in a pleasant atmosphere.
As for the boy&39;s special curiosity about his mother&39;s bra, it may be because many of the child&39;s related questions have not been answered satisfactorily. Parents&39; ambiguous handling will only make children more curious, and children will often use the methods of taking (action) and asking (words) to satisfy their curiosity and test their parents&39; reactions. Therefore, I believe that when the mysterious veil of "sex" is lifted, children will be able to grow up healthily.
