Q:
My family has a boy and a girl, the brother is 6 years old and the sister is 4 years old. The brother likes to learn the intimate actions on TV. He often kisses his sister, hugs her or presses on her to make her scream. How can I teach him to change this bad habit?
Answer:
The current TV media is more open than before. In addition to Channel 4, videotapes rented and sold in the market, and even books and posters on the street, children often learn some behaviors inadvertently, and this is also an important time for parents to give guidance.
Since we mostly view sex games with adult motives, we are very worried and feel ashamed to talk about it. For children, sex games are a learning opportunity and an inevitable stage in the development of sexual awareness. They are simply motivated by curiosity.
Children of this age are not only curious about their own bodies, but also interested in others. They will explore each other&39;s bodies through games. For example, children like to play the role of doctor. If they only check the eyes, nose, throat, and stomach, parents will not be surprised. If they check the sexual organs, parents may be uneasy. In fact, they are just playing the role of doctor. Children also like to play the role of parents. In addition to playing daily life, they may also imitate sexual intercourse or pretend to have a big belly and give birth.
For the above "intimate actions" problem, parents should first pay attention to not give them the idea that "sex is bad". As long as you let the brother know that you don&39;t like him playing this game, the sister will feel uncomfortable and uncomfortable. You may further let your children understand that there are many ways to get close to others and like others. Kissing and hugging are the ways many people express themselves. Shaking hands, smiling, sitting side by side, etc. are all possible, but the strength of expression and whether others are used to it are also important. If it makes others feel uncomfortable, it is not an appropriate method.
When children are watching TV, if parents find that their children are responding to certain affectionate actions, they can guide them in a timely manner, listen to their opinions and views, and express their own ideas. You can also talk about the messages conveyed by TV and the similarities or differences with real life experiences, so that children can understand from different perspectives.
