It is said that sex buddies are lively and have few good things, but many people do not want to change back and forth. They want to find a fixed sex buddy, which is clean and safe. So how should we find someone to maintain a sex buddy relationship?
Today we will talk about an interesting and sensitive topic, how this relationship and shortterm relationship are formed, and the role of the concept of "over" in it. This topic may make some friends feel uncomfortable.
But as adults, we should explore this phenomenon with an open and rational attitude.
First of all, we must understand that sex buddies or shortterm relationships usually occur in a special situation. Imagine that two people may have only met once or twice and are not very familiar with each other.
But at a certain moment, the right time, the right place and the right people, a wonderful atmosphere arises spontaneously, which we call the feeling of over.
In this state, two people may have an intimate relationship. Let&39;s take a look at a specific example. Xiaolin and Xiaomei met at a friend&39;s party.
That night, the music was soft, the lights were charming, and the two chatted very speculatively. Although they had never met before, in that special atmosphere, they felt as if they had known each other for a long time. This feeling is what we call "over".
However, after calming down, they may find that they don’t really know each other, don’t have many common topics, and can’t imagine living together.
But that experience did bring some happiness and pleasure. So, such a relationship was formed.
So how is the atmosphere of the top formed? Simply put, the top is to make the other person feel safe and happy. There are two key points here, security and pleasure, and whether or not to feel is the basis.
Imagine that if you just met someone and tried to talk about some ambiguous or excessive topics, the other person is likely to feel uncomfortable or even disgusted. Why?
Because of lack of security, the other person will worry that if I respond, will you do the same to others? Will you share our conversation with others?
Will you say bad things about me in the circle of friends? So the first task is to make the other person feel that you can be trusted.
You will respect his wishes. For example, when Xiao Wang and Xiao Li went on a date for the first time, Xiao Wang was very gentlemanly and paid attention to listening to Xiao Li’s ideas and respecting his opinions throughout the whole process.
But when Xiao Li said that he didn&39;t like a certain place, Xiao Wang immediately suggested changing to another place. This kind of consideration and respect made Xiao Li feel very safe and laid the foundation for future development.
The second key point is pleasure, that is, whether the other party can feel happy and excited. Just like we like to eat barbecue, we know that he may not be very healthy.
But the pleasure he brings makes us irresistible. The same is true for disco, roller coaster, and even some extreme sports.
The reason why they are popular is that they bring strong stimulation and pleasure under the premise of ensuring safety.
For example, Xiao Zhang likes skydiving. For many people, this is a dangerous sport, but for Xiao Zhang who has undergone professional training, he is controllable.
And the feeling of free fall makes him extremely excited. Is this why some people are addicted to extreme sports?
Because for them, these sports are both safe and exciting, so to make the other party excited, the key is to make them feel safe and experience pleasure.
So how to do this? First, build a sense of security, which takes time and patience, so that the other party can understand your living habits, hobbies and work status, and know that you are a normal person with normal social and interpersonal relationships.
But if you respect others, have good morals, and are with the other party, experience some things, and spend a good time together, these can increase the sense of security.
Xiao Chen and Xiao Hua are a good example. They often participate in various activities, from watching movies to outdoor hiking. Through these common experiences, Xiao Hua gradually understands Xiao Chen&39;s personality and feels his reliability and thoughtfulness.
This sense of security lays the foundation for the development of their relationship. On the basis of building a sense of security, you can try some more intimate interactions.
For example, you can sincerely express your love and compliment the other party&39;s appearance or personality. On appropriate occasions, you can have some slight physical contact.
For example, hug or whisper in the ear. Remember that these behaviors must be based on the premise that the other party is also interested, and always pay attention to the other party&39;s reaction.
If the other party shows any discomfort, stop and apologize immediately. Respect is the point of view of building trust.
In an ideal scenario, you might say, I&39;m really happy to be with you tonight, I like the feeling of being with you.
If you don&39;t mind, we can continue chatting and watching the night view. Of course, if you feel uncomfortable, I can take you home at any time.
Such an expression not only expresses your wishes, but also gives the other party full choice, making people feel respected and in a good state.
It is worth noting that being infatuated is a very emotional state, which is difficult to explain clearly with logic.
To truly understand and master this state, you need to observe and experience more. You can watch some dating variety shows and pay attention to those sweet moments. Pay attention to how the male and female protagonists interact, what they say, what they do, and how the other party responds?
The scenes that make those girls blush and their hearts beat are often examples of sweetness.
For example, in the show Let&39;s Fall in Love, there is a scene where the male guest gently puts on a coat for the female guest on the beach at night, and then the two of them watch the heartbeat together. This scene is easy to make people feel sweet and heartbeat.
By observing these scenes, you can better understand what kind of behavior and atmosphere make people more excited. Of course, please remember that these skills and methods are not to make people feel sweet, but to create a good atmosphere so that both people can enjoy the good moments.
Sincerity and respect are always the most important. Finally, I want to emphasize that whether it is a sex partner relationship or a shortterm relationship, it should be based on the consent of both parties, and we should respect everyone&39;s choice.
At the same time, you must also be responsible for your own behavior. Safety measures and physical and mental health are very important in intimate relationships.
In general, the state of being excited is a feeling of both safety and pleasure. To create this feeling, we need to build trust, show respect, and also know how to create romance and excitement.
