A healthy sex life is important for your physical, mental, and emotional health, and it helps strengthen your connection with your partner. But sometimes stress, aging, relationship problems, or other reasons get in the way. There are all kinds of things you can do to increase your libido and reconnect physically with your partner, and here are 18 tips.
• Talk to your partner about sex in clear, concise terms, and don’t be afraid to voice any insecurities you may have.
• Sex between partners is a team effort, so it’s important that you and your partner listen to each other and feel comfortable expressing your opinions openly.
• Use “I” language when talking about personal feelings to avoid sounding like you’re criticizing or blaming your partner for something.
• For example, you could say, “I find kissing and touching outside of the bedroom puts me in the mood” or “Sometimes I don’t feel confident about my body, and hearing you say you enjoy it might make me feel better.”
• Make sex a priority and make time for it in your busy schedule.
• Even if you’re busy, make sure you have sex at least once a week or once every two weeks.
• If you have time occasionally, you can surprise your partner.
• Research shows that couples who have sex once a week are the happiest.
• Let go of fixed views on what sex "should be like". Insecurity, worry and low self-esteem may affect sexual desire. Reflect on whether these thoughts are hindering your communication and sexual experience with your partner.
• Everyone's sex life is different, so don't be ashamed of your preferences. Challenge negative thoughts and confirm whether there is evidence to support your concerns.
• If you are anxious, communicate openly with your partner to build trust.
• Relaxing your body and mind before sex is important to prepare for it.
• When you are nervous and anxious, you can relax your mind through meditation, listening to music, and breathing exercises.
• Taking a hot bath or a massage with your partner can relax your body (massage can be interactive).
• Sex is not a competition. Slowing down can enhance the experience.
• Foreplay helps to relax and create an intimate atmosphere.
• You can engage in various forms of foreplay (intimate contact, mutual erotic messages, etc.) before entering the bedroom, but you must get the other person's consent.
• Lubricants can avoid sexual pain and enhance sexual pleasure.
• There are many types of lubricants, and you need to try to find the right one.
• When choosing a lubricant, pay attention to the ingredients to prevent allergies, etc.
• Perimenopausal women are prone to vaginal dryness, so it is important to use lubricants.
• Kissing and hugging can deepen the connection between each other.
• Although sex is wonderful, expressing more love to your partner can make both parties have a deeper physical and mental connection.
• Kiss, hug, and caress your partner more to show your appreciation for them.
• Try to find a position that both parties are comfortable with, because different positions give different sexual experiences, and a variety of positions can find the most suitable one for both parties.
• Some people like to have sex while lying down or sitting down, while others like to have sex while kneeling or standing. When being intimate, you can ask your partner to adjust the posture.
• Tell your partner the desired touch method.
• Demonstrating the touch method can create an atmosphere.
• It is important to ask and satisfy your partner's preferences.
• Mutual masturbation can add stimulation and understand each other's preferences.
• Sex toys such as vibrators can add new feelings to sex.
• Couples or individuals can try a variety of sex toys to add new dimensions to regular sex, such as vibrators, anal plugs, dildos, etc., but there is still room for experimentation.
• When you are nervous about using sex toys with your partner for the first time, you can try it yourself first.
• You can add interest to your sex life through activities such as role-playing.
• Spend time talking about sexual fantasies before sex, including personal quirks, role-playing scenarios, etc. As long as both parties respect and understand each other, express desires honestly.
• Both parties should reach an agreement before engaging in new or experimental sexual activities, and determine the safe words to use when uncomfortable.
• Changing the location can add excitement to sex.
• A variety of non-bedroom places to choose from.
• Travel is a way to spice up.
Foods such as strawberries and avocados can increase sexual desire because they contain specific vitamins and nutrients. Aphrodisiac foods include strawberries (rich in vitamin C, which helps increase sexual desire and protects the male prostate), raw oysters (rich in zinc, which helps increase testosterone and promotes sperm production), and avocados (containing vitamin B6, which relieves female premenstrual symptoms and helps generate sexual desire). Avoid drinking alcohol (which will reduce testosterone) and eat less saturated fat (which will damage blood circulation and reduce blood flow to the penis).
• Some foods can increase sexual desire and why.
• Specific aphrodisiac foods and their effects.
• The adverse effects of drinking and excessive saturated fat on sexual function.
• If you are easily out of breath in bed, it may be a sign that you need to exercise to increase your endurance.
• Exercise can increase energy and boost confidence.
• Physical activity can increase female libido and prevent male erectile dysfunction.
• Kegel exercises can promote blood flow to the pelvic floor and vagina, help with arousal and natural lubrication.
Staying focused allows people to focus on the present moment. If you are worried or stressed, sex may not be enjoyable. Truly enjoying the moment of sex will make it more pleasurable and intimate. The technique for practicing mindfulness is to pay attention to your partner's breathing and synchronize. Mobilize your senses during sex, such as lighting scented candles, focusing on smells and tastes, and touching your body.
• The importance of focus in sex.
• Factors that affect sexual pleasure.
• Specific techniques for mindfulness.
• Ways to stimulate your senses during sex.
Eat a healthy diet (eat more fruits and vegetables, whole grains, protein), get enough sleep (at least 7 hours a night), and control stress (develop hobbies and do relaxing activities). Only by taking good care of your body and mind can you enjoy sex in a good mood and state. Smoking has a negative impact on sexual health and should be avoided or quit.
• Three elements of a healthy life: diet, sleep, and stress control.
• The importance of a healthy life to enjoying sex.
• The adverse effects of smoking on sexual health.
If your sex life or sexual desire decreases, it may be due to illness or medication. Consult a doctor. Drugs such as antidepressants may cause side effects such as erectile dysfunction. In this case, consult a doctor to change the medication. If there are other symptoms, the doctor will also screen for diseases such as diabetes.
• Consult a doctor if your sex life or sexual desire decreases.
• Some drugs can affect sexual function.
• Your doctor will screen for physical causes for other symptoms.
• A sex therapist can help you open up about potential discomfort.
• If you are anxious or uninterested in sex, talking to a sex therapist can help you express your concerns and get tips on how to deal with it.
• If both parties are willing, you can discuss the situation with the therapist together.
