It's normal for the initial passion to fade after being with your partner for a long time. Fortunately, it's easy to rekindle the passion in a relationship, such as sending a naughty text or taking a day off together. To attract each other again and have a fun time, you can refer to the following tips.
• Exchanging naughty texts and notes can make both parties excited. You can tell your partner what you want to do later through text messages, or send naughty photos;
• If you live together, you can leave short and sexy notes where your partner can find them, such as "I'm wearing your favorite underwear today, I hope you can help me take it off."
• You can also leave love notes on mirrors, bedside tables, etc., with content such as "Can't wait to see you tonight" and "Surprise you later."
Using dirty words to create a sense of anticipation outside the bedroom, you can develop a habit of quietly saying dirty things to your partner or mentioning sex in daily conversations, which can make people think more about sex and have expectations, such as "These pants make me want to spank you" and "Good morning, naughty girl."
Be honest with your partner about your needs, share your fantasies, and then discuss how to incorporate them into your sex life to excite both of you.
For example, "I've always wanted to be tied up during sex, what about you?" or "I want to pretend that you're a pirate who's robbing my loot."
But don't force your partner to do something they're uncomfortable with, and don't force yourself. Focus on finding fantasies that you both like, and don't humiliate each other because of differences.
Dating helps to enhance intimacy. You can take turns planning dates with your partner to experience new things and create good memories.
Talk and express love during a date so that both parties look forward to the bedroom.
Specific dating methods vary, such as sharing a candlelight dinner, a sunset stroll, and hugging while watching a movie; making an affordable dinner together to add interest; going to the park or beach for a picnic; watching sports events or concerts; doing adventurous activities such as rock climbing and snowboarding, and sledding and skating in winter.
Buying your partner a gift shows that you are thinking about them. You can choose a thoughtful gift, or flowers, chocolates, underwear, etc. You can hand it to your partner in person, or surprise them at work to make them feel special and create a gentle moment. Gifts can be sweet, such as the bakery’s favorite cupcakes, or naughty, like furry handcuffs and eye masks. Be creative in your choice!
Set aside a day to relax and have fun with your partner. Choose a free day when neither of you has to work or other responsibilities. Don’t worry about plans. Just do what comes to mind and use the rest of the time to follow your intuition. This can increase intimacy and may lead to spontaneous behavior. You can do different things such as feeding ducks, playing with water guns, decorating the room, and learning to make coffee. The important thing is to try together.
Routine can make the relationship less exciting and lead to difficulties in bedroom life. Trying new things in your daily life can help you get out of a bad situation and rebuild intimacy. Do something new and exciting with your partner or surprise them, such as:
• Go to a new restaurant.
• Do something special on a weeknight instead of staying home.
• Make secret plans for outings, such as dinner, a movie, a play, or a concert.
• Book a hotel room for a night of passion.
It’s important to create a fun, sexy atmosphere with candles and music, because part of sexual desire is psychological. When you want to have sex, you can create a romantic atmosphere by:
• Light candles and dim the lights.
• Use colored lights (such as red bulbs).
• Play sexy music (such as Marvin Gaye, Al Green, or Usher).
• Sprinkle rose petals around the room.
Foreplay is essential for a healthy sex life for both men and women. When you are together, hugging, caressing, and kissing can enhance intimacy; when you are ready to make love, caressing, caressing, and massaging your partner can build anticipation. You can try kissing your partner's neck, chest, arms, and body, and slowly taking off each other's clothes. You can also integrate foreplay into your daily life, such as squeezing your partner's buttocks when you meet him in the kitchen, and caressing his skin while watching TV to make things more exciting.
Spending time together outdoors can help both parties reconnect. Good times are indispensable to relationships, and spending time together is necessary to warm up feelings. You can plan a romantic trip for two to put aside your worries, rekindle intimacy, and become lively. If the economy allows, you can spend the weekend in a ski cabin, lakeside cabin, or honeymoon suite; if funds are limited, you can go camping or swap rooms with another couple for the weekend.
Spontaneous sex is exciting, so look for opportunities to do it. Take advantage of your alone time and enjoy quick, intimate time together without worrying about what to do. For example, have sex before work or at lunch. Don’t worry about undressing. Wearing some clothes can increase the excitement. Take off the right clothes and enjoy flirting with your partner.
Showing underwear can add an adventurous touch to your love life. Choose underwear that your partner finds sexy, and then incorporate it into your sex life in different ways, such as:
• Wear underwear to surprise your partner when he comes home.
• Wear underwear under clothes to hint that your partner will flirt later.
• Wear underwear to sleep.
• Dress up as a sexy version of your partner’s favorite character.
• Take a photo of yourself in underwear and send it to your partner.
Trying a new environment can make sex exciting again. Although the bedroom is convenient, it is easy to get bored after a long time. You can move sex outside the bedroom to bring new experiences and make sex more interesting and exciting. You can try the following places:
• Have sex on the table in the living room.
• Do it outdoors when there is a privacy fence.
• Park your car in a secluded place to create a high school atmosphere.
Note that public sex is fun but most of it is illegal, so choose a secluded place and be careful.
Sex toys can increase the pleasure for you and your partner. You can buy sex toys that both of you want to try and use them during foreplay or sex, such as:
• Tie each other up with handcuffs, ropes, or tape.
• Blindfold each other during foreplay.
• If both of you find it exciting, use a gag and a whip.
• Prepare a dildo for intercourse.
• If both of you like it, try anal beads.
Acting out sexual fantasies with your partner can add interest. First, choose a role or scene that both of you like, then act out a sexy scene that excites each other, and don't forget to dress up for the role. If you don't know where to start, try these common scenarios:
• Hot wife watching
• Porn star's wife
• Doctor and patient
• Cops and robbers
• Maid and homeowner
Sexual desire includes the taste aspect, and you can add color to the sexual experience with food, such as desserts, edible lotions, and edible clothing accessories. Foods with aphrodisiac effects such as oysters and chocolate are good choices. You can incorporate food into sex games by feeding and licking each other, such as:
• Pour chocolate on the corresponding parts and lick the whipped cream off.
• Feed each other grapes or strawberries.
• Use edible lotions, underwear or frosting to make oral sex more exciting.
Using adult videos can get new ideas and add fun. Some people find it exciting and inspires new ideas.
However, if your partner doesn't want to watch porn, respect their wishes. If neither of you like it, porn can hurt the relationship rather than help it. Understand that porn is not realistic, so you don't have to copy it exactly.
Use games to break out of your comfort zone. If you have trouble coming up with new ideas, sex games are a good choice to explore new quirks and positions. Here are some game ideas:
• Dice game: Buy sex dice or give meaning to each side of ordinary dice. Roll the dice to decide what to do to your partner, such as 1 for kissing and 2 for licking your partner's nipples.
• Hide and seek with candy: Take turns playing hide and seek with small candies, such as blindfolding your partner and asking him or her to use his or her mouth to find 3 Hershey kisses hidden on his or her body.
• Play strip poker: Take off one piece of clothing for each hand you lose, and the loser must initiate sex.
Trying new things in the bedroom can excite both parties, such as mild bondage, blindfolds, whips, etc. (both parties must be willing and ensure safety).
You can buy related items together and then decide on the specific content to try. At the same time, you must determine the safe word, such as if you want to stop saying "red light", you need to stop saying "yellow light", such as blindfolding your partner and taking him/her to another place, letting him/her sit on a chair and touching his/her skin with different objects such as ice cubes, fork tips, warm candles, etc.
In addition, if you are considering trying an open relationship or bringing someone new into the bedroom, you can choose a dating app to promote this relationship, but be sure that all participants are completely willing, clear about the rules and respect each other's boundaries, and the whole process follows ethical and legal norms.
