Phone sex can spice up your sex life, whether it's because your partner is in a different city, you're not ready for other sex methods, you want to try something new, or for other reasons. To do phone sex well, you need to be relaxed, not shy, and ready to immerse yourself in it, regardless of the silly feeling at the beginning.
Although phone sex can happen "naturally", planning it in advance will make it go more smoothly, especially if it's your first time.
Choose a time when you both can be alone and free, and make sure the environment is right. If your partner is new or unsure, send them relevant articles or read them together.
Before you start, feel free to discuss what you will do during phone sex.
If you feel nervous or silly before the phone call, it will be difficult to enjoy the fun, so do something that makes you feel comfortable and sexy before the call.
Relaxation: You can lie on the bed for a while, browse the Internet, drink wine, jog on the spot, sing, dance, etc. to release physical tension.
Mobilize emotions: Create a sexy atmosphere to help you get into the right state of mind. You can do some preparations for other sex, such as:
• Tidy up the room and make the bed.
• Dim the lights and light candles.
• Play soft music.
• Take a shower and shave.
• Role play (such as skinny dipping, etc.).
• Put on or take off your favorite sexy clothes and underwear.
• Put on sex toys.
• Caress your body gently, or think about your lover, or imagine sexual contact to stimulate sexual desire, but don't get too excited.
After your partner answers the phone, just talk at a pace that is comfortable for both parties. There is no fixed "correct" way to have phone sex.
If chatting can relax you, you can chat for a few minutes before starting, but don't deviate from the sexy goal.
Low, soft tones or heavy breathing can create an atmosphere, but don't force it if it doesn't feel natural. Speaking and breathing comfortably in a normal tone is more effective than forcing sexiness.
Beginning is often the hardest, especially when you first try it. Choose a topic that is easy to start with and has the potential to develop into a sexier topic, such as:
• How much you miss the other person or how much you want the other person to be with you.
• What you would like to do if the other person was with you.
• What you are wearing and how it works.
• What you are doing.
• How you feel at the moment.
Once you start to act and feel comfortable, you can try to be bolder in your description or bring up a new, sexier topic. Here are some good ways:
Description and interaction
• Describe yourself or ask for "suggestions": Describe what you are doing, including your appearance and the way you touch yourself. It can be shy or obscene; you can also ask for "suggestions", such as "Should I start playing with my underwear?"; you can also tell the other person what you want them to do. If you don't want to touch yourself, just let the other person know that you enjoy listening to them.
• Describe the imagination: Talk about what you are imagining, such as what you want to do with your partner, wonderful sexual moments in the past, or scenes described by the other person. You can start with a gentle description, such as "First, I will touch your hair", and then turn to an intense description, such as "Then I will kiss your neck." The clarity and speed of the description vary from person to person.
• Describe your feelings: Talk about the physical and emotional feelings after doing something or listening to the other person say something. Moaning can express that you feel good, but if you are not used to it, you don't need to force it. You can relax your breathing and make the small moan louder.
Interactive feedback
When your partner describes or does something you like, tell him/her; don’t be afraid to express it when you don’t like it, so that both parties can continue to do what they like.
Share fantasy
Describe your own sexual fantasy, or let your partner speak out their fantasy and share it with each other.
Mutual masturbation and orgasm are good supplements to phone sex, but they are not necessary.
If your partner doesn’t masturbate, don’t be sad; if you don’t want to masturbate alone, ask the other person first. If the other person masturbates but you don’t want to, don’t be anxious, just enjoy the process of listening.
If one or both parties don’t reach orgasm, don’t worry, just think of it as icing on the cake rather than the purpose.
If you reach orgasm before your partner is ready to stop, don’t be quiet, continue talking and describing your feelings and imagination.
You decide when to stop phone sex. You don’t have to wait for orgasm, and you don’t have to stop when you orgasm.
After the call, there is no fixed time to end the call. Some people end it when their breathing returns to normal, while others like to continue chatting for a while.
Before ending the call, tell your partner that you had a great time.
