This is a questionnaire from the Internet. A boy asked the girls: "Do girls masturbate?", but the answer was almost "No".
At this time, a female netizen posted a question on Twitter and did a statistics~ It turned out that among the total 335 respondents, 248 people answered that they would masturbate. Among them, 177 people answered "Although I masturbate, I almost never tell others"!
From this, it can be seen that about 70% of women will masturbate, but most people don't want to tell others because of privacy and other reasons.
Although this is just a statistics made by a personal account, it can also be seen that the hot girls are enthusiastic about rewarding themselves~ Let's take a look at the real thoughts of these "self-sufficient" girls:
There are actually many ways for women to get pleasure on their own. Different women will find the most suitable way to masturbate after gradually exploring their bodies.
According to the survey of "Heidi Sexology Report: Women" --
70.3% of women choose to lie down and use their hands/objects to stimulate the clitoris and related areas;
5.5% of women are accustomed to lying prone and use their hands/objects to stimulate the clitoris and related areas;
4.0% of women like to use soft objects to rub the clitoris (such as pillows, bedspreads, etc.);
3.0% of women masturbate by clamping their legs;
2.0% of women masturbate by the impact of water;
1.5% of women choose to use objects to masturbate in the vagina;
11.0% of women use a combination of all the above masturbation methods.
Compared with partner sex, the biggest advantage of female masturbation is that the success rate of orgasm is higher and the time is shorter.
Orgasm has benefits for women that cannot be ignored. It can stimulate the secretion of endorphins and cortisol in the brain, allowing women to achieve deep relaxation, relieve various pressures brought by daily work, life and interpersonal communication, and sleep well.
Research has found that more than 90% of women can reach orgasm through masturbation, and it only takes an average of 8 minutes, which is much shorter and more successful than the time they need to reach orgasm with their partners (Carvalheira et al., 2013; Rowland et al., 2018).
Such a high success rate of masturbation is because compared with the inclusive sexual behavior of men and women, masturbation can better stimulate the source of women's sexual pleasure-the clitoris.
The clitoris and the male penis belong to the same cells in the fertilized egg, and both develop from the genital tubercle (Baskin, 2017; Baskin et al., 2018). The clitoris is covered with nearly 8,000 nerve endings (the latest research found that there are actually more than 10,000 nerve endings, which is too much), which means that the clitoris is very sensitive and can bring orgasms to women as long as it is stimulated enough.
In this way, compared with sex, masturbation is a more "cost-effective" choice. So what does masturbation mean to women besides bringing physical pleasure and satisfaction faster?
"I read a suggestion before that girls should experience masturbation before having sex with others for the first time, so that they will not feel unfamiliar with sexual contact. According to my personal experience, I think it is right. I was not nervous when I had sex with my boyfriend for the first time, because I knew what it was like and what it felt like to touch my private parts. I had control over my body."
-Anonymous, in love, 20
"After getting married, I tacitly agreed that sex with my husband is called sex life, but I have to say that this "tacit agreement" sometimes makes me feel that a part of myself is lost. But masturbation gives me the opportunity to find that missing part of myself again.
During masturbation, the whole process from sexual arousal to orgasm is completely controlled by my own will and is not dependent on or controlled by others. So, in the journey to joy alone, I also became the "only master" of my body. ”
——Xiao Lai, married, 36 years old
It means a journey of self-love, opening up love for "physical self" and experiencing happiness according to one's own will
"I think the most important thing about masturbation is that it allows me to not rely on others for sexual pleasure. I can decide when, how and where I want to get pleasure.
Many people think that masturbation is a substitute for "sex with a partner", but I think they are not replaceable. Sex with a partner allows me to gain recognition from another person, while masturbation is the love and recognition I give myself. When I masturbate, I will concentrate on my body. When I accept its feelings and appreciate it, I feel the reality of living in my own body."
——Sanfan, currently single, 25
"I have always felt that my body is ugly, not white enough, not curvy enough, not attractive enough. So every time I get to the point of having sex in a relationship, I retreat because I am really too insecure about my body.
Until, when I tried to masturbate and shyly picked up the mirror to try to find the right place, I saw my curled toes , arched waist, I found that I was actually very beautiful at that moment, I was very grateful for the body I had, and I also reconciled with my body for the first time. "
——Xiao Tu, dating, 32
It means seeing "one's own sexual needs" and truly getting rid of sexual shame
"I have been married for quite a few years. People of our generation were quite ashamed of sex. I have never actively expressed my desire in front of my husband. But because we are in different places all year round, it is not convenient to fly back and forth. My husband took the initiative to tell me that he was masturbating and encouraged me You can try it when you need it.
It was with his encouragement that I started trying (laughing). Now that we are no longer in a long-distance relationship, I will tell him directly when I have an idea; when the status is not synchronized, the one who wants it will masturbate. The change in attitude towards "sex" has brought more to me and our relationship. After ten years of marriage, we are more passionate now than when we first got together. "
——Anonymous, married, 40
The answer is: Yes!
First, it is not satisfied. Regardless of whether it is a man or a woman, those who have masturbated before marriage and can achieve "pleasure" will naturally think of using masturbation to solve the problem if they cannot be satisfied after marriage. Because the "desires" of husband and wife are different, a fixed number of sexual intercourse often cannot satisfy both husband and wife at the same time, and masturbation becomes a remedy.
Second, there is no real pleasure in sexual intercourse, which is more obvious in women. Because husbands know little about women's psychological needs, sexual intercourse is simple or even rough, and wives and husbands are embarrassed to communicate about their sexual lives, so wives have to satisfy themselves.
