When we searched for "first night", we found that the wrong guidance of women's first sexual behavior has become a means for many articles to attract attention. The exaggerated expressions in a large number of film and television creations have also made many people have a wrong understanding of the first time. Today, let's go back to sex itself and talk about the first time.
Sex is beautiful, it is not an accessory to reproduction; safety is the premise of good sex; it is not shameful for girls to take the initiative to have the first time or have sexual impulses; telling the other party that you are ready for the first time is not only not shameful, but also a kind of respect; whether or not there has been sexual behavior is not a standard for testing women's "chastity".
After physiological development, the first time is no longer related to age, but to whether you are mentally prepared; the first time should not be a bargaining chip to ask the other party to be responsible, nor should it be a means to keep your lover; it is normal to be dissatisfied with your own body and feel shy when seeing his body. Being honest not only requires courage, but also time to get familiar with each other.
A less "successful" sexual behavior is the result of joint efforts of both parties, so there is no need to leave a psychological shadow; the "natural first time" described in movies, TV dramas or literary works is often "natural" from the beginning in real life, and more technical or preparation issues are involved in the later stage; all your nervousness about the first time is normal, and everyone has worried about the first time.
1. Learn to say no and be responsible for yourself
First: Don't be kidnapped by emotional morality (If you don't sleep with me, do you not love me anymore?), don't be affected by the fast-food love environment where you can just meet once, and don't force yourself.
Don't want to do it, don't want to do it, don't want to do it, your body is your own business. You certainly have the right to say no, follow your heart and be responsible for yourself, not to mention that love can only be experienced naturally and willingly.
The most important thing is that if it is the first time for both parties, prepare more or remind your boyfriend to prepare more condoms, because then you will find that the condoms wasted due to operational problems may be more than those actually used.
2. Wash your private parts and pay attention to hygiene
I believe that most girls still love cleanliness, especially when they are going to have sex with someone they like, how can they be careless~ I even struggled at first whether to take a shower without removing makeup, just to prevent the other party from seeing me without makeup. Women are really hard to get along with.
Later, I couldn't hold on, because when two people have been together for a long time, basically the other party will see you in any way, with a big oily head that hasn't been washed for 3 days, lying on the sofa with no makeup, eating snacks and sucking hands.
And when the menstrual pain is so severe that the whole person is pale and sweating, how can you care about being too ugly? Want to die on the spot, and care whether the image in his heart will be disillusioned?
That's right, if you want to play a little fun or make things difficult in daily life, you can get it with no makeup, pink, perfume, sexy underwear, etc., and the white, tender, fragrant and soft girl is you, let him see what is the real warm and fragrant jade~
3. Be brave to express yourself and release yourself
It doesn't mean that you are willing to do it as long as the girl lies on the bed, right? He is the one you like, why are you still shy? Doing things is to pursue pleasure!
You hesitate to say no, but you actually want it in your heart, which will make men very entangled, so is it yes or no?
So when you want it, just say it boldly. You want him to kiss you directly and touch you, encourage him when doing it, say some love words or dirty words, at this moment in bed, the distance between you is negative, why can't you let go~
There is no need to blindly accommodate, ignore your own experience and feelings, don't wrong yourself, doing this thing is originally for you to enjoy, I enjoy, and everyone enjoys it together.
