First, let’s take that pressure off of you.
Sex is not only about penetration but also includes making out, dryhumping, oral sex, masturbating together, etc. There are too many things you can do, should do, other than just focusing on orgasming through the fireinthehole action.The more you stimulate your body while having penetrative sex, the more will you be able to orgasm.
And if you don’t, it is still okay! Here’s an astounding fact over 70% of women engaged in hetero sex do not orgasm from penetration alone. It’s not something normal or to be happy about, but just want to point out that you are not alone here.
If you don’t know how you like your coffee, sweet or dark, you cannot expect someone else to know it and make it to your taste without you telling them. Same goes for sex.You should know what your body likes, your sweet spots, and your fantasies. If you know your body well, you can practice and preach the same to your partner. Find out what pace you like, your hot triggers such as dirty talk or spanking, and try different positions. When you are having penetrative sex, rub your clit or ask your partner to do it because clit is the key. No shame there at all.
You can also try some products that are made solely for sexual pleasure.You can use your toys like vibrators or toys for couples like cock rings, strapons, sex furniture, etc.because trying something new can be very thrilling and helpful. Lube will be a blessing since it will reduce friction and add to the excitement.
I have been in your situation where only rubbing helped me orgasm and this affected my romantic relationship with my partner as our sex drives started to vary too much.I worked on myself and figured out my body first and communicated the same to my partner.We tried various things such as toys, positions, BDSM, dirty talk, etc.
Though we have figured out many things, the learning never stops. Our orgasms are in our hands, girl! Literally! Do not fake it anymore!
